May 15, 2018 • Page 2 shop online at www.missourivalleyshopper.com A Mother Teaching Responsibility Dave Says Help Them Help Themselves Dear Dave, My parents have always been bad with money, and recently they lost their home to foreclosure. They found another place to live, and they both work, but since the foreclosure my dad has been asking me for money on a regular basis. He tries to make me feel guilty, and he calls or asks me to come over to talk about it when my mom isn’t home. He even asked for half of the bonus I received at work the other day. I know they need help, but I’m not sure what to do. Eli By Daris Howard $10,500 13 years Priced experience Right at Dear Eli, I can tell you love your parents, because you’re looking for the best way to help them. I think your brain knows what to do, but your heart is having a hard time doing it. The first thing you’re going to have to accept is your father is being very manipulative right now. 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But I can credit her for turning my life from one of constantly doing things that probably bordered on the edge of criminal to one that was better. “The girls in the community always had a summer camp they all attended for a week. There would usually be over a hundred girls and their leaders, so the woman who was chosen to be the camp director had to be a no-nonsense kind of woman. She needed to be tough, but loving. It happened that one year, the woman asked to take on this assignment was my mother.” Bart paused and looked at us and grinned. “You all know my mother, and you know that she is just that kind of woman. I knew it as well because I had pushed the boundaries with her many times. “One of the things that the guys my age always did as a joke was to sneak into the girls’ camp and play some pranks. We might do stuff like tip over an outhouse, or take girls’ clothes drying on clotheslines and throw them into the pool. But if we were really daring, we would try to toilet paper the women leaders’ cabin or do something else to it. “Knowing it was my mother in charge, I almost didn’t sneak into the camp with my friends, but they eventually talked me into it. We snuck in and had pulled a few pranks when one the boys suggested we should hit the leaders’ cabin. “I tried to talk them out of it, reminding them my mother was one in charge, but they said that was all the more reason we should do it. I reluctantly agreed, and we moved a portable outhouse in front of the cabin door. I thought that would be a safe prank since the women couldn’t get out to get us. “But the women heard us and opened their door, only to find it blocked. We boys scattered, laughing, until we heard the air horn. Some men were stationed around the camp to watch for us, and the horn was a signal to them. The women couldn’t get out of their cabin, but they didn’t need to to blow the horn. The men converged on us, and soon all five of us boys were rounded up. The men moved the outhouse to let the women out, and we boys quickly found ourselves standing in front of my mother. “The sheriff was called, and when he and a deputy arrived, my mother pointed at the other four boys and said, ‘You can do what you want with these four.’ Then she pointed at me and said, ‘But this one goes to jail for the rest of the week until girls’ camp is over.’” “Did they actually arrest you?” Old Evan asked. Bart nodded. “That was a Tuesday, and my mom didn’t come to get me out of jail until the next Monday.” “That’s pretty harsh for a few pranks,” Evan said. “To be honest, I wasn’t too concerned about spending a week in jail,” Bart said. “What I was afraid of, and rightly so, was the punishment I would have when I faced my mom and dad.” “Was it pretty bad?” I asked. Save $30nodded. “I tried toAC Tune-Up!friends, but that Bart on a Summer blame it on my just made it worse, since my mom said I needed to learn to not let my friends talk me into doing bad things. But the punishment helped me realize that even the smallest of deeds Just give us a call and we’ll can have consequences.” Bart smiled. send out a qualified “And that’s why I appreciate my mother.” your folks get back on their feet. However, any financial help you give them should be temporary in nature, and it should be a gift. Don’t get involved in giving them money every month just because they raised you. That’s not how this works. When you permanently subsidize someone, you take away their dignity. You also change their status, and compromise their ability to stand on their own two feet. In return, you should let them know you expect them to work toward changing their financial behaviors with the help of a quality financial counselor — one with the heart of a teacher. It’s often difficult for parents to accept advice and suggestions from their own children, but it’s for their own good. Sit down with them, and gently let them know how much you care, and how much you want better, happier lives for them. God bless you all, Eli. — Dave 48” Cutting Deck, 21 H.P Kawasaki . 3,999 $ of Tyndall on Hwy. 50 Corner of Hwys. 50 and 5 miles West www.schuurmansfarmsupply.com 37 Ph. (605) 5 89-3909 or Cell (605) 464-1113 Our pal Doc is a genius. Just take the other day, and all of us were gathered up and coffee’d at the Mule Barn truck stop coffee shop and world dilemma think tank, and ol’ Doc just proved it again. Steve noticed them first, the young couple who had just pulled into a parking space outside the “efaC” window. From the outside, it reads “Café.” “Say,” said Steve, “isn’t that Bobby and Carol Ann?” “Yep,” said Jimmy, “and if I ain’t mistaken, there’s three of ‘em today.” Sure enough, Carol Ann reached into the back seat and unstrapped a brand-new baby from the car seat and smiled at it as they carried the baby to the front door. “Boy or girl?” Herb asked. No one seemed to know. “Look for clues,” Dud chipped in. One blue blanket, one pink blanket. No obvious ribbon Scotch-taped to baby’s head. If we didn’t know the baby’s name, how would we tell? And with today’s names, how would you tell anyway? The creased foreheads took over at the counter. “This will embarrassing,” Dud said. “No problem, Dudley,” said Doc. 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