September 17, 2019 • Page 4 shop online at www.missourivalleyshopper.com The Value of Family Love By Richard P. Holm, MD In 40 years of practice, I have seen how the final moments of one’s life can be inspiring or agonizing, no matter the manner of death. As I see it, the fear of death is a greater enemy than death itself. This has brought me to make the following recommendations for approaching our final moments. Be prepared Scientific advances, along with health care providers’ driven desire to save lives, have wrought lifesaving techniques that sometimes cause suffering (an unintended consequence). To correct this, making an advanced directive (living will) can help prevent great suffering. Going without is like arriving at the airport with no plans as to where you are going. Remember, a written advance directive is a tool to encourage discussions about endof-life expectations. When you reach your end-of-life situation, do you want antibiotics, intravenous (IV) fluids, feeding tubes, resuscitation? (I don’t.) Speak to your family members about your wishes now in case you later lose your memory and ability to speak for yourself. Also, there has been a growing emphasis and payment for hospice and palliative (comfort) care. Why not welcome these added financial benefits from Medicare and insurance if you or your family member qualifies? (These you control and can be stopped at any time.) When death is eminent, comfort care can be a blessing as it brings less emphasis on intervention which might cause suffering. Talk to your doctor and family about your choices. Dehydration can be our friend When a person has a terminal condition, is no longer wanting or able to take oral feedings or fluid, I see it as cruel to force artificial fluids through IV or feeding tube means. Without fluids, the patient’s internal pain relievers (endorphins) turn on while setting the stage for living only about ten more days. Dehydration does NOT cause suffering. Considering the prolonged suffering that can result from artificial fluids, dehydration can be our friend. When you live in a small town like ours, sometimes you get a bit thirsty for entertainment. I mean, we’ve all heard most of Windy Wilson’s stories, and the radio and the television stations are in a much bigger town. But once in a while, we have Willoughby. I think Dud passed him on the highway before he got here and phoned Reconciliation brings harmony Doc down at the Mule Barn coffee shop. The entertainAs we get closer to our own time of death, it is prument alarm went off more loudly than the tornado siren, dent to say to those who matter, this wisdom phrase, and in five minutes flat, we were down at the grocery store, originating from Hawaii, called “Ho’oponopono,” and waiting on the latest sales spiel Willoughby might bring. made popular by Dr. Ira Byock. “I am thankful for you, Our favorite so far was the artificial seafood with a forgive me, I forgive you and I love you.” This can help shelf life longer than written memory, but we were countrestore harmony with others and with oneself. ing on Willoughby to come up with something new and terrific. He didn’t disappoint. Bottom line: The fear of death can keep us from makWhen he grinned and waved and leaped out of his ing important plans for an advanced directive and hoscar, we gasped. Blue hair. Now Willoughby normally had pice, can trap us on a feeding tube and can keep us from brown hair mixed with gray, a natural look for a middlefinding harmony with the ones we love. A good death aged man. But blue hair? requires the courage to be prepared. We got inside the grocery store quicker than Willoughby. Annette looked up from the cash register at today’s Richard P. Holm, MD is founder of The Prairie Doc® audience and smiled. “Willoughby?” Of course, we said. and author of “Life’s Final Season, A Guide for Aging and Then here he came, necktie and all, with his sample Dying with Grace” available on Amazon. For free and case. easy access to the entire Prairie Doc® library, visit www. “Annette,” he said, “you know we need to keep up with prairiedoc.org and follow Prairie Doc® on Facebook fea- the times, and that’s why I brought you this new age-reverturing On Call with the Prairie Doc® a medical Q&A show sal product called Fall Back. 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All in one..” Check out the “Willoughby,” Annette said, “how many times did you have blue hair when you were in school?” “Well …” for great specials at your “And trot out your tattoos and piercings for us, too,” local restaurants! said Doc. In Print and Online! Willoughby looked like someone just stepped on his pet frog. “I can give you a really good price on this kit, anyway.” Doc nodded and whispered. “I’m sure he can.” How to Help Your Kids Plan for College While They’re in High School If you’re a parent, here’s something we’re both passionate about: making sure your kids have a great future. I want to help you and your kids get ready for life after high school so they can continue to college (and beyond) with a plan and a purpose! And a huge part of that is paying for school without student Anthony loans. Yep, I said it. Your kids do not need to take out student loans for college. People might’ve told you that student loans are just a “normal” part of the college experience, and that going to school debt-free isn’t even possible. Forget normal! If having massive amounts of student loan debt is normal, then I want your kids to be weird! The Biggest Problem Facing Today’s Students Why am I so passionate about helping your kids avoid student loans? Well, there’s a major student loan crisis in our country right now, with the total debt coming in at over $1.6 trillion. And the average amount of debt per student at the time of graduation is over $35,000. Not cool! When I was in high school, nobody warned me about the dangers of taking out loans—so I did. It got me in a lot of trouble, and I regretted it later. But now I have the opportunity to help the younger generation avoid making the mistakes I made—and here’s how you can help them too. How Your Kids Can Prep for College Academically Acing their academics now will only help them prepare for—and pay for—college. Here are the top three things they should do when it comes to their schoolwork: 1. Get great grades. Honestly, GPA is one of the top things colleges look at when it comes to awarding merit- based scholarships. Encourage them to view their grades as a way to make money for school—kind of like a job. 2. Learn how to study. Good study habits are a huge plus in high school and college. Help them find their ideal study environment by asking them what helps them stay focused. Do they need total quiet? Does music or white noise help? Do they need food or coffee? Do they get more done alone instead of with friends? 3. Prep for the tests. ACT and SAT scores are two other important factors in getting college scholarships. Resources like test prep books or tutors can really make a big difference, too. But don’t worry if that’s not in your budget. You can help your kids by quizzing them, or working through math problems with them. Or you can even consider borrowing a prep book or splitting the cost of one with a friend. How Your Kids Can Prep for College Financially Money is everyone’s favorite part of the college process, right? Yeah, not so much. But remember, it’s totally possible to pay for school without loans. Here are three ways your kids can do that: 1. Find scholarships and grants. This is free money that your kids won’t have to pay back! I tell students to spend at least an hour every day applying for scholarships, because it will really pay off in the long run. They can also find scholarships and grants by filling out the FAFSA form and by looking through the hundreds of other options online. There’s a lot of free money out there. Your teen just has to find it! 2. Work. Having a part-time job throughout high school and college not only helps with time management and career skills, but also really helps them save money for their future! 3. Budget. When your kids learn how to write down where every single dollar of their income is going, they’ll be way less likely to overspend—and way more likely to put their extra money into a college fund. Yes, your child can go to college without student loans! MV Shopper MV Shopper * About Anthony ONeal Since 2003, Anthony has helped hundreds of thousands of students make smart decisions with their money, relationships, and education. He’s a national best-selling author, and travels the country spreading his encouraging message to help teens and young adults start their lives off right. His latest book, Debt Free Degree, will be available October 7. You can follow Anthony on YouTube and Instagram @AnthonyONeal and online at anthonyoneal.com or facebook.com/aoneal. O’NEAL M I S S O U R I VA L L E Y Challenging Sudoku Puzzles by KrazyDad Fill the puzzle so that every row, every column, and every section contain the numbers 1-9 withoutRrepeating a number. 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Kristi Noem has proclaimed Friday, Sept. 20, 2019, as “POW/ MIA Recognition Day,” calling on all South Dakotans to honor those men and women who fought bravely for our freedoms. “While we are grateful to all of those who have served our nation, this day is designated to remember and recognize the sacrifices endured by those members of the Armed Forces of the United States who were held as prisoners of war or remain missing in action,” said Greg Whitlock, Secretary of the South Dakota Department of Veterans Affairs. Whitlock encourages all South Dakotans to set aside time Sept. 20th to honor the POW/MIA’s who fought to protect our freedoms and lost theirs, as well as remember those engaged in today's struggle to guard our way of life for future generations. “In their service to our country, former prisoners of war and those missing in action have sacrificed mightily to maintain the promise of liberty that we hold dear,” said Whitlock. “POW/MIA Day affords all of us a great opportunity to reaffirm our vow to never forget the courage of our nation’s staunchest defenders – our former POWs and MIAs. We owe them and their families our gratitude.” The state of South Dakota continues to support efforts to account for every service member classified as Missing in Action. The Classifieds: Your Ticket to Local Finds Call or go online to browse, buy or sell! 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